Interpersonal Communication

About This Course

This course offers lessons to help your child improve their interpersonal relationships by improving their “Interpersonal Communication.”

Course Summary

Improve your child’s interpersonal communication skills.

Informative lesson plans, fun activity ideas, and additional resources allow you to work with your child to increase their Interpersonal Communication

  • The Communication Process
  • Communication Research and Inquiry
  • Verbal Communication
  • Non-verbal Communication
  • Listening


Communication Skills for Kids – Importance and Activities to Improve

Possessing a set of proper oral language skills can be described as an essential life skill in today’s times. Parents should start teaching their kids basic communication skills during the early years and go on to hone their skills as they grow.

Assuming that kids may learn suitable communication skills sans parental guidance can be a huge mistake.

Parents may wish to coach their kids not only to communicate effectively but also politely.

Why Are Communication Skills Important in Child Development?

Communication skills are important in child development for the following reasons:

  • Teaching effective communication skills to children may help them to express themselves clearly and convey their feelings in a better manner.
  • Communication skills can facilitate learning and meaningful exchange of information with others.
  • Communicating well may boost your child’s social IQ by helping him build sound relationships during his interactions with other people.
  • A kid who can properly communicate verbally may be comfortable producing written communications as well which is likely to help him perform better academically.
  • Kids with communication problems may develop behavioural disorders like depression, social withdrawal, low self-esteem.

Basic Communication Skills A Child Should Know

Some basic communication skills a child should know can be:

  • Children should be able to establish eye contact while talking with the person they are conversing. It is a mark of interest and respect. Looking away during a conversation is an indication of disinterest and constitute bad manners.
  • Your kids need to learn to speak properly and clearly. Kids may be trained to speak using correct pronunciation and right grammar. They should be impressed upon not to speak hurriedly.
  • Parents may instruct their kids not to interrupt an ongoing conversation and start talking because they feel so. It is essential to check this behaviour and encourage self-control.
  • Parents need to model appropriate listening behaviour so that kids may learn to listen attentively and respond aptly.
  • Parents may also like to show their children the art of entering a conversation politely and the right way to behave when somebody joins a lively conversation which includes greeting the person with an encouraging smile and nod.

What to Do If Child is Unable to Communicate Effectively?

Some useful tips on how to develop children’s communication skills can be:

  1. Build an open line of communication where your child can easily approach you and express himself without hesitation.
  2. Let your child have plenty of time to process what he wishes to say and allow him to finish to prevent the occurrence of stuttering. Refrain from cutting in or interrupting him while he is trying to respond.
  3. Avoid over-correction and being overcritical while teaching your kid to speak well. It will only discourage him.
  4. Children usually learn best by imitating their adults. Therefore, it is desirable for parents to present a good speaking model to their kids to help them communicate suitably.
  5. When communicating with your child ensure you take turns, make proper eye contact and display appreciation for his active participation.

Communication Activities and Games for Kids

Few interesting communication activities and games for kids can be:

1. Play Telephone

This popular and fun game may help enhance good listening skills in kids and can be played by kids of all age groups. You can include other members of the family as well. Have them all sit in a circle close enough to whisper easily. Start with one child who will whisper a message into the ear of the player sitting to the right, who then whispers it into his neighbor’s ears until everyone in the circle have taken a turn. You can start with a simple message and slowly progress to more complex sentences.

2. Pointing Directions

Nonverbal communication activities for kids can include this simple game. Ask your kid to write down directions to his nearby favourite shop or park. Then embark on a journey along with your kid following those written directions to reach the place. On the way, help him understand how can he make it better or things he may mention to communicate better.

3. Show and Tell

Show and tell activity can be a delightful verbal communication game for kids. Give your kid a topic like his favourite fruit, a favourite book or a road trip with family. Have him exhibit an item related to the topic and ask him to speak five lines on it. This activity can assist in furthering your kid’s confidence, vocabulary and eloquence.

4. Picture Storytelling

Picture storytelling can be a very interesting activity as kids love to tell stories. Provide your kid with a set of pictures. Ask him to arrange them in a logical sequence and spin a story from it. Alternatively, you can offer him just one picture and have him describe the things he perceives in the picture like the scenery, people, colors and other details.

5. Presentation

This exciting activity may not only promote your kid’s oral language skills but also aid him to get comfortable with public speaking. You can propose various themes ranging from the recitation of a favourite poem to expressing his views on current topics like saving water, recycling, use of gadgets. Ask him to prepare a short presentation to present to a family gathering, local park functions and so on.

6. Extempore

Extempore or spontaneous speech forms an important part of oral communication and can be used to expand communication skills. Extempore may support your kid in thinking on his feet and articulating his inventive ideas correctly with accuracy. This activity may suitably prepare him for his future career prospects as well. Make chits on interesting topics and have your kid pick a chit and speak on the chosen topic impromptu for a few minutes.

7. Emotional Charades

This fun activity is great for helping kids understand different facial expressions, signals, body posture when communicating. These are the non-verbal communication cues which complement verbal communication. Hand out a few cards to your kid each card depicting a particular emotion like anger, sad, bored, tired, happy and have him act them out. Your kids can also draw the different emotions he is likely to experience in ordinary situations.

8. 20 Questions

20 questions is a wonderful game which may enable your kid’s ability to formulate and ask direct questions. Ask the kids to stand in a circle with one kid in the centre. The kid in the middle has to think of a famous place or a known personality. Other kids in the group have to identify it by asking a set of 20 questions. The child can respond by saying only yes or no. In case the group fails to guess then the child is declared the winner.

9. Identify the Object

You may require 4 -5 kids for playing this game. Blindfold one of the kids and the rest of the players chose an object which can be described elaborately for easy identification. Every player takes a turn describing one feature of the chosen object. The blindfolded kid may request for additional questions as cues.

10. Changing the Leader

This game can be a great training tool for teaching kids to recognize body language indicators. Choose one kid as the leader who may perform certain actions like stomping his feet or clapping. The others kids have to imitate his actions. The leader may select another kid as the leader by smiling or winking at him. Other kids have to detect the new leader and then replicate his actions.

Parents who communicate more with their kids may be able to help them develop sound communication skills easily. Communication proficiency may not only provide your kid with better comfort in social situations but can also ensure improved performances academically and later in their careers.

Good communication with children involves listening well and talking in ways that encourage your child to listen to you. It’s like any other skill – you get better with practice.

Good communication with children: the basics

Good communication with children is about:

  • encouraging them to talk to you so they can tell you what they’re feeling and thinking
  • being able to really listen and respond in a sensitive way to all kinds of things – not just nice things or good news, but also anger, embarrassment, sadness and fear
  • focusing on body language and tone as well as words so you can really understand what children are saying
  • taking into account what children of different ages can understand and how long they can pay attention in a conversation.

Communicating well with children improves your bond with them, and encourages them to listen to you.

Some children need a lot of encouragement and positive feedback to get talking. Others will be desperate to talk with you when you’re busy doing something else. This might mean stopping what you’re doing to listen.

Top tips to improve communication with your child

You can improve your communication with your child by showing her you value her thoughts and feelings, and helping her to express them. For example:

  • Set aside time for talking and listening to each other. Family meals can be a great time to do this.
  • Talk about everyday things as you go through your day. If you and your child are used to having lots of communication, it can make it easier to talk when big or tricky issues come up.
  • Be open to talking about all kinds of feelings, including anger, joy, frustration, fear and anxiety. This helps your child develop a ‘feelings vocabulary’. Talking about feeling angry is different from getting angry, though. Learning the difference is an important step for a child learning to communicate.
  • Tune in to what your child’s body language is telling you, and try to respond to non-verbal messages too – for example, ‘You’re very quiet this afternoon. Did something happen at school?’.
  • Work together to solve problems. For example, if your child likes to change his clothes several times a day, you could agree that he puts away the clothes he’s no longer wearing. And remember that you might not always be able to resolve an issue straight away, but you can come back to it later.
  • Emphasise the importance of honesty by encouraging and supporting your child to tell the truth – and praising her when she does. And by being honest yourself!
Be available and willing to listen. Often you can’t predict when your child will start talking about something important to him.

How to listen when talking with your child

When your child has something important to say, or has strong feelings or a problem, it’s important for her to feel that you’re really listening. Try these tips for active listening:

  • Build on what your child is telling you and show your interest by saying things like ‘Tell me more about …’, ‘Really!’ and ‘Go on …’. This sends your child the message that what he has to say is important to you.
  • Watch your child’s facial expressions and body language. Listening isn’t just about hearing words, but also about trying to understand what’s behind those words.
  • To let your child know you’re listening, and to make sure you’ve really understood the important messages she’s telling you, repeat back what your child has said and make lots of eye contact.
  • Try not to jump in, cut your child off, or put words in his mouth – even when he says something that sounds ridiculous or wrong or is having trouble finding the words.
  • Don’t rush into problem-solving. Your child might just want you to listen, and to feel that her feelings and point of view matter to someone.
  • Prompt your child to tell you how he feels about things – for example, ‘It sounds like you felt left out when Felix wanted to play with those other kids at lunch’. Be prepared to get this wrong, and ask him to help you understand.
When you show your child how to be a good listener, you help her develop her listening skills too.

How to encourage your child to listen

Children often need some help learning to listen, as well as some gentle reminders about letting other people talk. Here are some ideas to help with your child’s listening skills:

  • Let your child finish talking and then respond. This sets a good example of listening for your child.
  • Use language and ideas that your child will understand. It can be hard for your child to keep paying attention if he doesn’t understand what you’re talking about.
  • Make any instructions and requests simple and clear to match your child’s age and ability.
  • Avoid criticism and blame. If you’re angry about something your child has done, try to explain why you want her not to do it again. Appeal to her sense of empathy.
  • Be a good role model. Your child learns how to communicate by watching you carefully. When you talk with your child (and others) in a respectful way, this gives a powerful message about positive communication.